Yes, I went to google "How to control your temper" and I found these steps and tips useful...
Steps1. Remember that the reward for patience is happiness.
2. Realize that things can be handled well at all times; it's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it. Take deep breaths.
3. Get away from situations where your anger might get the better of you, such as when someone is teasing you. Ignore the other person and walk away. If you must, do this a few times until the person gets the hint that you will not tolerate it. It's okay to use your words or body language to tell somebody you will not tolerate how they are treating you, as long as you respond to them in a calm and matter of fact manner, without being overtly hurtful or trying to embarrass them as they have you. It's never okay to hit somebody for making fun.
4. Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily, and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself.
5. Be considerate of others, and ultimately, yourself. The way you react will ultimately affect your surroundings. If you have to rebuke someone for doing something wrong, you can always do it calmly, in a private place. This method is always better for everyone in the long run.
6. If you are angry and you are standing, sit down, if you are sitting then lie down.
7. Remember, 5 seconds stand between you and logic, count to 5, and remember that logic always beats anger.
8. Stop talking to that person for few minutes to whom you are angry and take deep breath around 5-7 times.
9. (IF there are any) Think about the good things that person has done for you. What bad have you done to them? Chances are, you've done at least something to them to make them resentful towards you. Make sure you have a clear conscience-then speak.
10. Temper can ruin anybody's life. When your eyes are opened it might be too late, so try to control your anger and follow the above steps. It will definitely get you away from tension.
11. Count from 1 to 10 in ascending order and then descending order, you will feel a bit calmer.
12. Saying hurtful things could be very risky and dangerous and it can hurt someone's heart so please stay calm when you feel hyper.
Tips1. When you feel like you are about to blow up, count from 10 to 0 and then decide how you will act. This doctor-recommended method has definitely helped.
2. When you are angry then your heart beats faster, you feel uneasy and you want to express it somehow. Stay calm and take deep breaths, close your eyes for a while and you will find that the situation is under your control and slowly you will master your anger.
3. Ask yourself, in 3 weeks, will this (whatever is making you mad) matter to me at all?
Credit to
http://www.wikihow.com/Control-Your-TemperP.S. I'm determined to change my temper. I understand that it is not good and that it has resulted in this unhappiness to happen. As mentioned in step 10 - temper can ruin anybody's life. It has ruined mine... :'( I hope it's never too late to change now...
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